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Once upon a time, I wished to meet someone who knew exactly what he wanted...and so of course, I did.
There is an important quality to wishes that we sometimes learn the hard way.
Essence and Form are two different things.
The ESSENCE of what you want is the way you want to feel. I wanted to feel safe, protected, cherished,
respected.
The FORM of what you want are the specific things you think you need to
"get" to the Essence of what you want. I "got"someone who knew what he wanted, just as I had
wished.
Generally, at a deep, subliminal level, we know what we want.
Unfortunately, we then fill in the blanks with things we know. Immediately, we sabotage our deepest
wishes.
For example: You know that you want your friendships to feel wonderful,
supportive, mutual, and completely solid.
And then, you start qualifying that "want" with expected behaviors. They
must return your phone calls within a specific period of time, they must reach out to you as often as you
reach out to them, they must do things the way you would do them, etc, etc, etc.
If I had placed qualifiers on how my friend should act as opposed to how
the relationship should feel, I would have missed the very best friendship a person could
have.
Identify how you want something to "FEEL" and then let it unfold without
trying to qualify all the specifics (the form). It is when you put "form" around your wishes that you
begin to diminish what your soul has in mind for you!
This is true of all things. When you want a new job, friendship,
relationship, home, etc, determine how it should feel. Don't try to determine job description, title, pay
grade, neighborhood etc.
Let the details take care of themselves. Describe what you would like to feel: well rewarded,
free, happy, fulfilled, and let life bring you what you deserve!
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