Why would you? Are you so very sure that you are RIGHT?

 

You are so much more logical. He is so intuitive.

You are clear headed. She is an optimist.

You make lemons out of lemonade and he is gloom and doom.

You like to have a plan and she wants to "wing" it.
You want to stick to the agreements and he thinks that things have changed.

 

So what do you do? Fight a lot? Laugh a lot?Cry?

 

If you want it to work, you get into their world and look out. See things from the other point of view by pretending you are the other person. This is not for the sake of arguing better. That's a big mistake because you are still not listening!!

 

The more aggravated you are, the more important it is that you not assume he/she is an idiot. That is guaranteed to cause you a lot of grief (and mess up your relationship). Try to remember why the opposing qualities that frustrate you are EXACTLY what you need. If she is a neat nut and you are tired of her complaining, try to appreciate that you may need more order in your life. If you are the neat nut and the other person thrives on chaos, pretend for a silly moment that you are too anal and this person is there to make you lighten up.

 

If they are sour and you are lemonade, remember that lemonade is/can be sour. Are you really so far apart?

 

And so on.....

 

If you haven't read it, or you read it a long time ago, you might want to get a copy of The War Between the Whirligigs and the Tanks. This short little ditty is responsible for saving many relationships. It's easy to read, and it explains soooo much!

If you want to figure out how to make it work, order a copy right away! You can find it on our web site

 

harlanevans.com scroll down for Whirligigs and Tanks. It's about half way down the page

 

OR go to Amazon.com and put Toni Lynn Chinoy in the author's search box

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